Identity Work
Identity work is the process of figuring out who you are, separate from who you were told to be.
Identity isn't fixed, and it doesn't follow a timeline. People come to this work at different points in their life: early questioning, mid-life reckoning, after a relationship ends, a change in job status, or simply when something that used to feel like you no longer does. The work is about building a clearer, more honest relationship with yourself and understanding of who you are at the moment.
What We Might Explore Together:
Coming out or embracing a queer identity at any stage of life
Navigating gender, transition, or expansive identities
Understanding polyamory, relationship orientation, or relational roles
Re-examining belief systems, values, or what you inherited from family and culture
Untangling cultural, racial, or familial expectations
Feeling stuck between multiple versions of yourself
Shame, doubt, or fear connected to authenticity and visibility
Developing self-trust when the path forward isn't clear
You don’t have to figure it all out before you begin. This is a space to become, unbecome, and begin again. On your terms.
My Approach:
Identity work is psychodynamic at its core, meaning we look at where your sense of self came from, what shaped it, and what might be ready to shift. That often includes early relational experiences, cultural and systemic messages, and the stories you've been carrying about who you are and who you're allowed to be.
I also draw from feminist theory and an environmental systems perspective, both of which take seriously the external forces like family, culture, institutions, and social context, that shape how identity develops and where it gets constrained. Identity development models also inform my work, recognizing that people come to know themselves at different stages and in ways that don't always follow a straight line. The work follows what's actually present, though, and I don’t assume some predetermined arc.
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