Insight. Connection. Self.
A framework for making sense of where you are and what wants to emerge next.
These aren’t steps or stages. They’re themes I return to in the therapy room and in life. They are interwoven parts of becoming more whole.
Insight begins with noticing.
It’s the quiet turning inward and the willingness to sit with what arises without rushing to change it. Sometimes insight arrives in a flash: a clear recognition that shifts how we see ourselves. Other times, it comes slowly, as we build the courage to feel what’s been waiting underneath.
In therapy, insight asks us to stay curious about what’s beneath the surface: old fears, protective patterns, the longing hidden behind defenses. It invites awareness without demanding action.
We don’t force insight here. We make room for it to unfold in its own way, trusting that even small glimpses can open new paths forward.
Connection weaves meaning into insight.
Sometimes connection feels immediate, a moment when today's emotions link to an old story or when body and feeling meet for the first time. Other times, it stretches across time and memory, building a web that reveals patterns we have carried quietly for years.
In therapy, connection might sound like a realization ("I am living the same disconnection my parents modeled"), or it might be felt quietly in the body, a loosening, a new breath without fear.
Connection holds the tension between noticing and becoming. It is the thread we follow, slowly or swiftly, toward deeper understanding. We pluck that thread often, sometimes gently, sometimes with urgency, trusting that even small risks can carry us somewhere new.
Self is not a destination. It’s an unfolding.
Sometimes self emerges through understanding by finding language for who you are or what you feel. Sometimes it comes through action such as learning new skills, reclaiming your body, or stepping out of old patterns. Sometimes it rises from pain, the quiet decision to choose something better for yourself.
In therapy, self is not something we build from scratch. It is something we remember, nurture, and strengthen. It grows through the work of healing grief, confronting fear, moving toward possibility.
Self is the becoming that follows insight and connection. It is the place where you can say, with growing certainty, "This is me, and I am worth the work it took to get here."